So i am level 102 on my life wizard but i havent gotten any pet quests. Not saytr or dryad or any of the life pet quests is this because i didn't do Girzzleheim? If so how far do i have to go into Grizzleheim to get the quests? And who is the person i have to talk to and their location?
Yes, to get your pets and several spells you have to do Grizzleheim, then Wintertusk.
Grizzleheim quests begin with Baldur Goldpaws, near the Bazaar. Both he and Merle Ambrose will summon you back at various points, until you reach Wintertusk. (Wintertusk is basically Grizzleheim, part 2.) Use your quest finder at the back of your quest log in Wizard City to pick up any straggling quests there. Then go to Grizzleheim and use it again. Hopefully that will get you started.
At your extremely high level, it will be tedious more than difficult, and you should blast right through it.